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Yes, and many people do. How body-based sessions sit alongside talking therapy, medical care and couples counselling, what this work is not, and the times when it is better to wait.

The question almost nobody asks out loud, answered plainly. Most somatic sessions happen fully clothed, undressing is always your choice, and you can change your mind at any point, including halfway through.

Divorce, bereavement, or a long time alone. What it is actually like to be sexual with someone new in your fifties or sixties, and how to go about it without pretending to be thirty.

You could list what is wrong with them right now, without stopping to think about it. Too small. Too low. Too soft. Not what they used to be. One bigger than the other.

If you have ever found yourself curious about tantric massage but hesitant to book one, you are in good company. Most people who come to me have spent weeks, sometimes years, wondering what actually happens in a session before they feel ready to ask. There is so much mystery around...

A dispatch from Buddhafield Festival: two main-stage workshops, on erotic embodiment and the felt practice of consent, and what shifted for the people in the room.

Desire in midlife stops turning up on its own and starts needing a reason. What testosterone does and does not explain, and what to do when wanting has gone quiet.

Most advice about sex and intimacy quietly assumes one thing above all: that your body will be roughly the same tomorrow as it is today. It assumes you can plan, that energy will be there when you reach for it, that touch will feel more or less how you expect....

So much of what we are told about sex and intimacy assumes a particular kind of body and a particular kind of brain. Read between the lines of most advice and you will find an unspoken expectation: that you can easily tell what you are feeling, that touch feels good...

This week the Daily Mail published a feature about my story. The headline they chose, “I once thought bad sex was inevitable in middle age. Here’s how, at 48, I found out I was oh, oh, oh so wrong”, made me smile. But underneath the tabloid sparkle is something I...

When a negotiated limit or safeword is ignored, that is not domination, it is being overridden. On consent, boundaries, shame and the conscious side of submission.

When a long relationship ends, the advice arrives quickly. Get back out there. You will meet someone. The right person will come along and the ache will lift. Plenty of men have tried that and found it was not true. I am a woman, so I will not pretend to...

Have you ever wondered why you're drawn to the particular things that arouse you? Why certain scenarios, dynamics, or qualities in a person light you up while others leave you cold? Why your erotic imagination returns again and again to the same themes? Most people either don't think about it...