Conscious Sexuality

Everyone living fulfilled sex lives, fully in their body, in love with who they are and what is possible for them and for the people in their lives

 

Have you heard of the phrase “Being in your body”?  If you have been around the personal development world or been on spiritual training you may well have heard this phrase.

But what does it mean in reality?

First of all, let us look at what it might look like to not be in your body.   Some of the ways I used to experience this was that feeling of walking my head around, my head being lumped on my body, and often that feeling of dragging my body around with me.  I often as well had this experience of being a zombie, (especially at the time of the month!) not quite with it, my partner a few years ago used to laugh at me when I would stop in the middle of a shopping aisle, staring into space, not aware of anything, not sure why or what I was doing there.   Another one I realised was this feeling of needing to fill a black hole, a desperate need to fill it and I wasn’t sure why, which for 20 odd years I filled with food and sex.  Satisfying it for a while but always coming back very often stronger, needing and wanting more.  If you identify with any of this then carry on reading.

When we are disconnected from our bodies there is often a sense that something is wrong but we are not sure what.  We live in societies that teach us to lead with our heads, which is often very much needed to fulfill careers and carry out a lot of our modern-day tasks.  The problem is though that the body gets forgotten.  This can have a big impact over time if we are not listening to our bodies.  This can often show up in injury, illness, disease, feelings of something is wrong, not sure what, constant tiredness, and survival.

So what can you do?  There is so much you can do at home by yourself, taking time to touch your body whether that be massaging or caressing, noticing sensations and feelings.  This is a practice I call “Conscious Touch” and I have another blog post that goes into this in more detail.  You can also join one of our many conscious touch calls, which will be in our events section.  But this is very much a practice that you can do alone without any support from others.  The main issue though is often we just don’t make time for ourselves.

The second thing that makes a big difference is talking to your body…. yes I know this might sound a bit weird!! But believe me, your body can and will talk back if you spend some time asking and listening to it.  If you have never heard about this before then you may well have heard the saying that if you talk to plants they will grow quicker and better.  So if you can talk to plants why not your body?  I have an article talking about how you do this in more detail