What does a session with me look like?
Learning Objectives
Each session begins by clarifying your learning goals. If it's the first session, we'll discuss what you hope to gain overall. In subsequent sessions, we'll review experiences and insights since we last met and any home play you tried. I highly encourage practising between sessions - that's where real learning takes root when applied to your life.
Once objectives are set, we'll explore suitable exercises to support your goals. I typically provide multiple options for you to choose from based on your comfort level. Especially at first, I recommend short duration exercises to tune into any disassociation, trauma triggers, or resentment cues showing an activity isn't truly consensual for you.
What Brings People to Sessions
There are many reasons people seek a sexological bodyworker. Some common motivations include:
- Boosting low libido
- Alleviating genital numbness or pain during sex
- Expanding pleasure and orgasmic potential
- Improving body image confidence
- Healing intimacy anxiety or sexual trauma
- Reconnecting with your body's wisdom
- Shifting unhelpful sexual patterns
- Enhancing sexual relationships
- Learning to give and receive sensual touch
- Embracing your body, gender identity, and erotic truths
- Overcoming past emotional or sexual wounds
Safety, Consent, and Boundaries
A foundation of safety is crucial when exploring deeply. It's easy to override internal cues in the heat of excitement only to feel remorse later. We'll likely spend time building your interpersonal boundaries and consent literacy. Exercises strengthen your ability to check in with and express your authentic desires.
Sample Exercises
Sessions may involve anatomy education to acquaint you with your body's sexual physiology. Body mapping deepens embodiment through mindful touching of each part. I'm happy to teach you medically accurate terms, while also encouraging you to reclaim your own vocabulary.
With caution and preparation, we may explore practitioner touch to receive nurturance rarely offered. However, pleasure is not the focus - it's about being present with your body's sensations and messages, even challenging ones. Erotic touch, if any, is one way only from me to you.
Together, we can unwind reliance on external stimuli like porn, toys, or goal-driven touch. Instead, you can discover your body's inherent pleasure and intuition. For some, this facilitates moving beyond compulsions and into empowerment.
Closure and Integration
We'll close each session with self-reflection and optional sharing. Journaling supports processing and noticing insights to apply going forward. Between sessions, be patient with yourself as new practices take root. Consistency over time transforms; a gym habit offers a great analogy. Know your wholeness awaits.
Take the First Step
Every journey begins with a conversation. Book a complimentary 60-minute discovery call where we’ll discuss where you are, what you’re seeking, and find the best approach for your unique journey.
No pressure, no obligation, just an opportunity to explore what’s possible.
Available in person in North London (N11), or online via Zoom, wherever you are in the world.